Tragic accident please help family
Hi folks my name is Sonny Vincent. Some of you may know me from my music, tours and albums. . Most don't know my real name, it is Robert Ventura Jr. I need help. On Sunday January 2, 2016 our family was in a tragic accident. My son Rob, Sarah Ventura, and their son ( my grandson) Cayden Ventura (Age 9) were in a gas explosion that ignited into a blazing fire. Their injuries and the burns are extensive, The burns are 3rd degree and emcompas 50% of Robs body,50% of Caydens and the Mom suffers with 80%. They are each currently in the Burn Intensive Care Unit at Winston Salem Medical Center, and are on life support struggling for their lives. The explosion/fire destroyed everything they owned. There are several family members who are here supporting them. I despreartely need urgent assistance in taking care of them.
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Hi everybody ! Tomorrow is Cayden's birthday!! 12 years old ! Thank you all so very much for helping us through this very tough time. Never could have come this far without you all by our side. The Love and support has humbled me and has shown me real beauty. Thank you.
Cayden has a surgery coming up so I am going to make him a nice birthday before that happens. Right now he doesn't have to deal with dressings, bandages, stitches and recovery, so it's a chance to make it fun and special for him.
Cayden's birthday means so much to me. This sweet boy made it through a lot. Thanks my friends for being there for us!! Lots of Love,
I want to let all of you sweethearts know that this Thursday April 19th is little Cayden's Birthday. I am honored to tell you that. You have all been there for us so closely and this story would have been very, very different without your Love and supoort.
Coming up next month in May we have to go to the hospital and we will set another appointment for a very serious reconstruction surgery for Cayden's left hand and more surgery on his face. Each time he goes into surgery it's terrifying for me. There are so many risks and I must advocate and make sure that he will be safe. I have had many meetings with his Surgeon and the Anesthesia department Now at this upcoming meeting to we will establish the exact date of the surgery.
After the surgery there will be a week or two recovery time. During that time I will be busy changing his dressings, doing everything I have learned to fight against infection ( there is a great danger he could lose fingers if an infection takes hold inside). Then as his hand heals it will contract so it's very important that I (and his therapist) keep doing the daily intensive range of motion excercizes. It's so important that it must be done even during the time his hands have wounds and stiches. Also I must keep him caught up in his school work, since he misses so much classroom time.
It's so much, before he showers I wrap his hand in plastic wrap,plastic bags and tons of tape so that no water gets into his dressings/bandages. I then spary his wounds with disinfectant solution and redress everything. Cayden's surgeries and post surgery protocols are very tough and I dedicate myself night and day to insure a good recovery.
You guys have always been there for us and again I ask if you our loyal Angels reading this could contribute any amount that you can to help us to pay our bills that are coming up. Please help me provide the best recovery for little Cayden. Rob and Sarah are also on a tough road, they are progressing slowly but in a positive direction.
As you all know my whole life and career has come to a complete halt. No way for me to tour or record albums for now. My entire source of income stopped and I am on a new path for now as a caregiver and five star Grandpa!
Even though Cayden has many physical issues he is still doing his best in soccer ( his team won yesterday!) and he was recently decorated with advancement in the Boy Scouts, he is certified as ' Scout' and is now working on ' Tenderfoot!!'.
Two of his friends from school will have a weekend sleep over this coming weekend! Yours truley will be bringing them to a trampoline/ climbing extravaganza place for Cayden's birthday!
Could I ask you to share this post and please donate anything you can to keep us safe? I worry each night about how to keep going, how to pay all these bills with no source of income. But with your Love and kindness we are making it through. Cayden's upcoming surgeries are going to impact our lives profoundly. I really want to make him a happy boy on this birthday this Thursday and give thanks/ celebrate how far he has come!
One of these days I'll tour again and Cayden and I can thank you in person! That will be so wonderful! For now please keep helping us ! Thanks so much for standing beside us! Sonny
P.S - I made a short video clip of Cayden for this update!
Hi friends just a short update. Everything has been very hectic and busy. Soon Cayden needs additional reconstructive surgery on his hands.I have had many consultations with his surgeon and the time is drawing near for needed surgeries. For now I bring him to his appointments and try to enjoy the time away from hospitals, etc. Easter is coming soon and I.am going to make it nice for Cayden. I need to buy him a new bike soon. The last bycycle I bought him was the type with back brakes ( pushing the peddal backwards stops it) , he needed this type because his hands simply couldn't squeeze the handle brakes. It was so sad, I brought him to the store and he chose a bike he loved but he couldn't squeeze the hand breaks. He didn't have enough strength in his hands.The next day I found him a cool used ' Huffy' with the back peddal brakes!! He was in heaven!!
Now after over a year of therapy 3 days a week and my working on his hands everyday at home finally his hands are getting stronger! According to Jess his therapist it is important I buy him a different bike, this time the type that has hand brakes. Must keep his little hands working! So although it's an ongoing process with surgeries and recovery, he is progress. Thanks so much for all the sweet well wishes and prayers
Although everything is going well with Cayden, I always worry about the upcoming surgeries. I sometime feel panic because these surgeries and the anesthetic is always a risk. He has had over 20 surgeries to date but lately I seem to worry even more about the risks, it proven in very small children that multipul surgeries that need general anesthetic create learning disabilities. Ther is no data available concerning older children. So I have postponed surgeries but now he will need some on his hands and face. Also I have daily stress and worry about our bills. We only make it through month to month and without your help we fall behind. Inever felt so helpless but at the same time each time you guys help us we feel so supported. The helplessness comes from not knowing how to get by in the future but also I feel very safe because so far you guys have been there for us consistently. I don't know what else I could have done to get by and get so much progress for Cayden and my family. I appreciate all my friends and also folks who have been moved by my music who I now have become closer to through this tragedy.. The sweet notes , messages and letters have strengthened me when everything was so depressingly hard. Could I ask my friends who have stood with us to please continue to support me in taking care of Cayden? Rob and Sarah are in stable condition now. I need help in my caring for Cayden helping him recover. We have made it this far because of your help. Someday I can tour again and get money. But for now we depend on you. For me right now this is a total 24/7 dedication. Please help me get through another month, get him a bike, spring/ summer clothes and suplies. Even a little bit helps so much.Thanks so very much. Lots of Love and a Happy Easter !!
Hi Friends- Again I must write a quick update. The days are long with lots of appointments for Cayden and tons of driving!
I'm bringing Cayden to his hand/ body therapy sessions 3 days a week. He gets out of school and we drive to Arden, NC . The drive takes 30-40 minutes each way. Cayden has his therapies and we drive home, arriving home between 6:30 and 7:00. Then I make dinner and while I do that Cayden does his homework. After that he showers, does a bit of online games and then I tuck him in bed. Next morning it's up at 6 am to get him ready for school. Monday nights is his Boyscout meeting and I'm there with him. Starting this Friday he will playing soccer after school in a team I signed him up for.
It's always a busy week!
Something I want to share is that last weekend was Cayden's first weekend at a Boyscout camp out! Before the camping we had to drive 150 miles in the opposite direction of the camp site to go the hospital in Winston-Salem where Cayden had an assessment. We spoke to the surgeon about the upcoming surgeries that Cayden needs. Then we drove home and he went to school for a day ( it's important he doesn't miss school days).The next day on Friday we drove 4 hours to Santee South Carolina, following the Troop in a convoy to the camp area! Although Cayden still has difficulties with his hands, arms and legs, the camping was really, really great for him. He was in heaven! The kids had no interference from us adults other than the fact that we could usually see them from our vantage point (The kids tents were around 30-50 yards from me and the Troop Leaders). The boys had to make fires, prepare their own food and basically be independent and survive the wild! The kids were two per tent and the adults slept in single tents alone ( thanks Steve, Jenn and friends for the camping gear!). Cayden learned a lot and I did as well. I was able to 'let go' a bit. Ever since the days of being with him in the Intensive Care Ward I have been watching him closely and keeping him safe from harm. The nurses taught me how to watch the values on his monitor, blood pressure, heart rate, oxygen. They said when the oxygen gets too low for a person to live a red light will flash and a loud alarm will sound. That happened. It happened one night at 3am as I slept next to him. I jumped up and quickly leaned over him and yelled " Breathe Cayden!!! Breathe!!!". He woke up and his eyes widened. Suddenly he tried to breathe. I kept yelling " Breathe hard Cayden!!" And finally his oxygen level got sufficient. It was so hard my friends. I can still cry about those moments. Later he was discharged and we found a home. Robbie and Sarah we're still in the hospital. At this point Cayden's hands were frozen solid in a fixed non functioning position, that also was so very scary and then all the stress of the multipul surgeries, which can be fatal, I think you all will understand that after all the things we have been through that I have been protecting him and guarding him. But now for Cayden's own good, Grandpa has to be smart and I have been ' letting go' a bit so Cayden can achieve as much independence in his motion and the way he connects to the world as possible. I want Cayden live life to it's fullest. Oh yeah, back to camping! So although camping is not this punkrocker's cup of tea, and sleeping in a tent is not my favorite thing, there I was for the full weekend. Cayden actually said " that was the best sleep I've had in my whole life!!!" So I guess he is the outdoorsman in the family!!!
He was trained in building a small fire, using an axe and knife, tieing knots and received advancement for his efforts.
So although he has physical limitations, he pushes through! It was so wonderful to see him in the distance filled with joy, having a blast with his friends. Later after his upcoming surgeries he will not be able to do too much because there is a long recovery time and we have to start the process all over in terms of stretching and getting his hands and body to regain range of motion. His body grows but the grafts do not, so it's a constant battle of surgeries under anesthesia, regrafting, taking skin from other parts of his body, etc
So now we keep the action going! We arrived home late Sunday!
Day after tomorrow is his first soccer practice! He will not play as well as he could have before because his body is all grafted, but I know Cayden, he will have a blast and I'll be there on the sidelines! Some other good news is that finally, a while ago, Medicade provided some of the equipment Cayden needs to keep his body moving and keep range of motion.
I still need to buy medical supplies but nothing major anymore.
But that being said I still have lots of stress worrying about paying rent and our monthly bills. I wish I could still do tours but that's not possible at the moment. Could you guys help us? Each time my back is against the wall you guys come to our rescue. I know it's going on and on but it's my reality. I spent my life independent, doing my music and art, totally self reliant never a burden on other folks but this situation brings a good man to his knees sometimes. We definitely have our joys but it's not easy!
Please continue to help us and support us. Every donation helps. Help me keep doing my best. One of these days I'll meet you guys on one of my tours and that will be so great to see you my friends, to meet the Angels who got us through this hard time. Thanks so very much.
P.S. Sarah is in an apartment near the hospital, finally out of the hospital after 2 years ( more on that in my next update!) And an update on Robbie is coming soon as well! Rob and Sarah have been through so much too.